the loss of a friend

today a very good friend died. she was in terrible pain towards the end, and i know she's better off gone but she's left a big hole in my heart. never knew a hole could hurt so much too... i did manage to spend some time with her. even though one never discussed such things, i think she knew exactly how i felt about her, and how much she meant to me.

how does one go about deleting her name from my mobile phone, from my contacts details in all my address books? she was the first one i would think of when i got some typical 'womanly' or kooky forwards; could almost hear her laugh while reading it. did she know how much she meant to me? how precious she was to me? i think she did. maybe i'll feel better knowing that she did. go in peace, sita. know you were loved; you'll be missed, but you'll always be there in that special place in my heart. now when i pray to the powers that be, i'll pray not for you, but to you.

A shameful furore

am so amazed by the furore over actress khushboo's statement that i just had to write and let off steam. i am presuming that no one but me reads this blog anyway. she said that premarital sex should be with protection. to have self-styled culture police gunning for her in such an unseemly manner is shocking. while no one says that it is recommended, every sane human being knows that premarital sex has always happened, almost always without societal approval. i am not a sociologist so cannot vouch for it, but i can definitely imagine that it is an accepted feature of everyday life in many cultures.

this is the same khushboo for whom temples have been constructed in tamil nadu. she was not a god then, and is definitely not one now. but she seems to be one sensible woman who was accepting facts and suggesting protection. to term it all as anti-tamilian is appalling. this is not what being tamilian means, and it is sad that a few bigots can have so much say in the matter of what is or is not 'tamil culture'

linked all the time

just wanted to celebrate getting the broadband connection with one more blog. now i am going to be linked to the world for even longer while happily ensconced in my room. looking forward to a lot of blogging, a lot of chatting and hopefully some online work that i could do. any suggestions?

After a long time..

Am writing again after a long gap, thanks to a couple of friends who actually asked about my blogging. Have had a lovely long break and then am now realising that the break was only so i could get back to a life which is one long break. Am determined to start doing something very very soon, though i cannot yet zero in on something i'd like to be doing for the rest of my life. While writing this, am realising that I don't really have to think so long-term, and can just start doing something interesting and rewarding (mentally and financially)that will take me through the next few months. Any comments or suggestions, anybody?