We lived in the 60s and 70s in a tiny stretch of Raja
Basanta Roy Road that extended from the CESC office on one side to the Bhanga
Bari (the accepted name for the old house that had been converted into a
slum). Today, sitting in Bangalore,
reading about the Durga Puja celebrations in Kolkata has kindled a lot of
memories. One of my earliest memories associated with the Pujas is the tension
that would pervade our house in the weeks before Mahalaya.
Around 7.30 in the evening, while my siblings and I did our
homework, we would hear the voices of a group of young men downstairs. As they
climbed the stairs to our house, we would look at each other with trepidation.
Our father would perk up and reach for a sheaf of papers he had kept ready for
just such a visit. Most of the time, the
conversation would start amenably enough and very often end similarly too.
“Uncle – we have come for chanda for the Durga Puja in our
para.”
“Ok – which para have you come from?”
“XXXX palli – near XXX Road”.
“Do you know how far from our house that area is? How can
you ask for a subscription from me?”
“Uncle, you gave us last year too”.
“Oh really – let me check’”– and my father would start
rifling through the sheaf he was holding. He had stored chanda receipts chronologically
for the past many years. If he didn’t find a receipt in the group’s name, then
he would send them off just by waving the sheaf at them and telling them about
he could not afford chanda for new groups as he had obligations to so many
groups.
If he found the receipt, then the discussion would be taken
up to the next level.
“Ok, fine. Here you are – give me a receipt for 2 rupees”.
‘But Uncle, last time you gave more …..’ and the
conversation would peter out as the speaker realised the proof of the amount
was in the old receipt in my father’s hand.
Sometimes a more enterprising soul would start to say “But
Uncle, shouldn’t you give us more this year” and then be treated to a five-minute
diatribe on how salaries had not doubled while expenses had, how many more
pujas he was contributing to, how no one was contributing to our navarathri
celebrations etc etc. Once in a while the group would mention that they were
celebrating their silver jubiliee. Promptly my father would pick up a receipt
to show them how he had given them 5/- two years ago on their silver
jubilee. The young men would go away
with 2/-, exhausted by the sheer force of my father’s arguments. As Mahalaya neared, more and more groups
would wend their way to our house and the conversation would follow the same
set pattern.
Most of the time, the men left after exchanging pleasantries, but very often one upstart would make an offensive statement either about our being Madrasis in ‘their’ State or about us being stingy and that would start the yelling. My father would roar in anger and ask them to get out. The men would leave, threatening to deal with any of us who dared to step into their para in the next few days. During this entire episode, my pre-teenage elder brother would quietly stay inside. An active participant in all the cricket matches that happened on the streets, he did not want these ‘dadas’ to know that he lived in this house. In spite of being careful, I am sure he still felt the repercussions when he went out to play. I know we went out fearfully for the next couple of days, sure that some young man was waiting to beat up my father for not giving him 2/-.
Most of the time, the men left after exchanging pleasantries, but very often one upstart would make an offensive statement either about our being Madrasis in ‘their’ State or about us being stingy and that would start the yelling. My father would roar in anger and ask them to get out. The men would leave, threatening to deal with any of us who dared to step into their para in the next few days. During this entire episode, my pre-teenage elder brother would quietly stay inside. An active participant in all the cricket matches that happened on the streets, he did not want these ‘dadas’ to know that he lived in this house. In spite of being careful, I am sure he still felt the repercussions when he went out to play. I know we went out fearfully for the next couple of days, sure that some young man was waiting to beat up my father for not giving him 2/-.
Nice reading. In Jamshedpur our Sikh neighbour had a different tactics. They said, 'For our festivals like Nanak Jayanti, we invite all of you for Kada Prasad. But we have never asked for chanda. We will give what we can but don't demand.
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