Years ago, our 17 year old niece wanted to tie a Rakhi for Kanishk who was then 3 year old. He protested vehemently when she wanted to put a tika on this forehead and wanted to know why all this necessary. We told him that this was to show that he should be there to help her if she ever needed any support. And his first reaction was, ' but she's so much bigger than me. How can I help her'. Our prompt reply was, ' Good. Then she can help you when you require it'. They continue to remain connected after 2 decades, and while neither has needed protection or help from each other, the bond remains.
Siblings can bicker, fight, argue, dislike, even hate one another ..but nothing will be able to stop the heart from feeling a tug when one hears of a sibling in trouble or pain. And we will surely be there for one another. I don't think that needs a day to reinforce that bond.
But as one grows older, if one is lucky, we also make friends who stand in or add to the number of people we share a bond with. Just the message 'I'll be there for you' is enough to provide confidence that we are not alone, and support and succour if and when one needs to reach out. Larger the number, the more blessed we are
It is time to change this day, that was trafitionally celebrated as a promise of protection to the sister by the brother, into what it really should be - a time to strengthen ties, and the promise to be there for one another - for siblings, family and friends
I agree with you on the point that a specific "day" needn't be alloted for relationships- Mother's day, Father 's day.....I find it so artificial.
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